Reading Can Open Doors for
People Experiencing Trauma
Here are inspirational books that OASIS/FRC recommends to anyone, including those who may be struggling on their journey. Our mission is to empower individuals and encourage knowledge. Reading is an opportunity to connect with oneself again. If you or someone you know is or has been a victim, these books may help take back one's personal power. Sometimes diving into a good book is the best way to start your healing. Check these books out and when you are ready call OASIS/FRC to see if our services fit your needs.
Stories of Survival
"A phone call to the Oasis shelter 17 years ago helped me make the decision to leave an abusive relationship. I called because I had discovered bruises on one of my 2 year old twin girls’ thigh. I questioned her father – my husband at the time – if he had seen the bruise he left on her. His comment, “You would have a bruise if you had been hit twenty times.” I asked him, “How many times did you hit my baby?” He had no answer and went off to work. I panicked because the children had been at daycare and I knew they were obligated to report any suspected abuse, hence, my call to the shelter for advice.
I was advised to think about losing all six children if the daycare provider reported the bruises seen on my daughter’s thigh. I was torn because we had been married for 10 years and had 6 children. How was I to raise these children alone? Would the repercussions of leaving him be violent or even more damaging? He was a very controlling individual who would not let me work or visit with friends. I had just taken a position with the Americorps Vista program and had already suffered his verbally and emotionally abusive behavior due to this decision.
After agonizing over the decision, I went into the shelter with my daughter where pictures of her thigh were taken. This started an investigation by CPS and the prosecuting attorney. My oldest daughter also had a handprint bruise on her bottom from a spanking by her father. Realizing he was turning his abusive nature toward the children, I knew I needed to leave him.
I stayed in contact with Oasis and attended group activities and began individual counseling by one of the group facilitators. It was through these supports that I was able to stay strong throughout the divorce process. My children even seemed to be more relaxed without the presence of their father.
Seventeen years later, I am thankful for the support early in the process from Oasis staff. My children have grown into successful young adults who are against any sort of physical discipline. My youngest daughter has often reminded me that we have beat all the odds set against us – poverty and a single parent. My oldest son is an instructor with the Air Force, one daughter served five years in the Marines, the youngest son attends Michigan Tech and the twins attend GVSU. My oldest daughter is successful in her own right as a forever 8 year old in a group home." --Joani
"Thanks to OASIS/FRC and their services, I was able to leave my abuser 16 years ago. I was able to stop the cycle of abuse in my family, and my children have grown up to be successful members of their community. Thank you OASIS/FRC for helping me be free from abuse for 16 years."----Anonymous.
"My family was able to stay at the OASIS/FRC shelter while I was escaping my abuser. The shelter gave us a safe place to live, with free clothes, food, and any thing we needed! They even had a hairdresser come and pamper us! Thanks to the shelter staff I was able to see the extent of the abuse I was experiencing, I did not realize some of the things he was doing was considered abuse. My family owes our safety to the OASIS/FRC shelter and staff, thank you thank you thank you!"---Anonymous
"It took me a long time to leave my abuser. I never thought I could do it. My friend told me about OASIS/FRC and one day I decided to call. Their support gave me the courage needed to leave my abuser and start a new life. They were understanding and offered me many free services I was able to use to help me and my family overcome obstacles and to leave my abusive home. It was hard to break the chain that bound me. But thanks to OASIS/FRC counselors and shelter staff I was able to start my new life abuser free!"---Anonymous
Need something for that person who has everything?
Sponsor any item on the OASIS/FRC Wish List. We will send a beautiful card recognizing the contribution in their honor. This is a great idea for birthdays, anniversaries, or just to let someone know you care.
OASIS/FRC WISH LIST
Provide one night of emergency shelter for one person - $27
One counseling session for an adolescent survivor of sexual abuse - $35
Help with legal advocacy and court accompaniment support - $72
In-home parenting support session - $53
Survivor relocation kit - $200
- Help with cost to operate the 16-bed shelter for one night - $432
Did you know that 2015 marks the 30th year that OASIS/Family Resource Center (OASIS/FRC) has provided vital services to our community? For over three decades, we have provided thousands of nights of shelter and other services to victims of domestic and/or sexual violence. This past year, OASIS/FRC provided 17,813 nights of safe shelter. Unfortunately that’s 1,000 more nights than the previous year. Our counseling staff worked with over 1,200 victims of domestic and/or sexual violence, 459 of whom were children. We also worked with over 2,000 clients who are striving to break the cycle of violence through learning positive parenting skills. We are only able to do this with the financial support of the community, a dedicated staff and committed volunteers.
If these numbers seem high, the next time you’re in a room with 6 people, think about this:
➢ 1 in 4 women experience violence from their partners in their lifetimes.
➢ 1 in 3 teens experience sexual or physical abuse or threats from a boyfriend or girlfriend in one year.
➢ 1 in 6 women are survivors of sexual assault.
➢ 1 in 5 men have experienced some form of sexual victimization in their lives.
➢ 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men were sexually abused before the age of 18.
These are not just numbers. They’re our mothers, girlfriends, brothers, sisters, children, co-workers and friends. They’re the person you confide in most at work, the guy you play basketball with, the people in your book club, your poker buddy, your teenager’s best friend—or maybe you.
Please consider a year-end gift to OASIS/FRC. All of our services are provided free of charge, and 91 percent of all our funds go directly to client services. Please join us in working to end domestic, sexual and family violence.
Contact us for more information, or make a secure donation through PayPal. You can make a one-time gift or spread your giving throughout the year.
Thank you in advance. Your support is sincerely appreciated.
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